participating?

I underestimated the difficulty to analyze a community.  

I find it hard to do because i don't feel accepted in the community.

It seems like nobody has noticed i joined. Even moderators haven't said anything in these weeks I'm participating.

ok, i haven't really posted much, but that's because i don't feel like sharing anything with those people.

On intertet, people tell how they feel about something, but here, the posts are very very short and everything is a reaction on something a previous person posted. They quote others and tease each other. It seems like everybody knows each other for a long time, it's obvious tht almost every post is made by someone with 3 or more stars. 

Personally, that creates a sort of distance and i don't want to participate in their conversation. I don't think it's my fault, because on intertet, i enjoyed it to post things (even though it wasn't interesting either).

Can wijfzonderlijf do something about that? i don't think so, as we saw, sometimes the older members take over the community. Maybe they don't even notice it's hard for new members to join the conversations. 

But one mistake they make is that a new member don't receive any kind of feedback that he or she joined wijfzonderlijf.

Every new member on intertet gets a welcome wallpost from one or more moderators.

So the link i made in the very beginning (many birthdays today, so many members!)

was totally wrong. Ok, they have many members but how many are real?